If the other person responds to your initial foray, you have the option to chat via text or IM, send photos sext , and more. If it turns out the sexual interest is mutual, you simply make a plan to meet and do whatever it is that works for you. No muss, no fuss, just the sex, thank you very much. Most of the time you don't even need to exchange real names. It's a bit like ordering takeout Chinese for dinner. Without doubt, plenty of folks think hookup apps are the best thing since sliced bread, while plenty of others view them as the devil's playground.
And most of the time these opinions are about as grounded in impartial scientific research as my preference for mustard over mayo. I just think a sandwich is better with mustard, and that's the way it is. Simply put, some people think casual sex is a great way to learn about and experience sexuality, perhaps transitioning into a longer-term, more emotionally connected relationship later on.
Others see casual sex as a way to enjoy being both single and sexually active. Still others believe that sex without emotional commitment or marriage is a quick ticket to eternal damnation, or at least to low self-esteem, depression and emotional isolation. Interestingly, there are three relatively recent studies looking at casual sex and its impact on emotional health, all focused on young primarily college-aged adults.
The first study concluded that young adults both men and women who engage in casual sexual encounters do not appear to be at greater risk for harmful psychological outcomes than sexually active young adults in more committed relationships. The second study reached a different conclusion, finding that casual sex in young people both men and women was negatively associated with well-being and positively associated with psychological distress.
The third study found that socio-sexually uninhibited young adults both men and women typically report a higher sense of well-being after having casual sex when compared to not having casual sex -- meaning that casual sex can be a good thing for those who are into it.
All three studies were limited in scope. The first compared only sexually active young adults having casual sex to sexually active young adults in a committed relationship.
The second compared only young adults who'd had casual sex in the last month to those who hadn't, regardless of whether they were in a relationship of some sort or otherwise sexually active. The third focused primarily on casual sex as a normative experience among young adults. Furthermore, as is typical with research on human sexuality, none of the studies looked at a broad demographic swath, particularly in regard to age. As such, this conglomeration of research should be looked at as a jumping-off point for discussion rather than any sort of decisive, research-driven conclusion.
The lack of conclusive scientific research forces us to rely on social convention and personal opinion when discussing casual sex, which is hardly an ideal basis for making and defending a definitive proclamation.
That said, here is mine: If casual sex doesn't violate your personal sense of integrity in terms of how you treat others, how you honor your commitments, and your individual moral code, then what you're doing is probably not going to cause you either short-term or long-term internal emotional distress.
No, casual sex is not for everyone. Conversely, those who are freer with their sexuality and able to enjoy, maybe even revel in, the occasional non-intimate sexual encounter are probably thrilled with the smorgasbord of options that hookup apps and similar technologies provide.
Aside from this, FWBs and F-buddies are similar in most other regards, except that FWBs are somewhat more inclined to communicate about their relationship e. However, it is important to note that not all researchers characterize FWBs the same way. In fact, another study of FWBs reported that there are as many as seven distinct types of friends with benefits!
Taking casual sex not too casually: Exploring definitions of casual sexual relationships. Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality , 20 , Preorder a copy of my new book, tell me what you want, and receive aN exclusive bonus.
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